Have you ever wondered what makes a woman truly elegant?
Today, ladies, we’ll take a look at the qualities of a feminine elegant woman, and I’ll share with my four favorite tips on how to become more feminine and classy.
Whether you’re just beginning your journey or looking to enhance your natural charm, these practical tips will guide you to embrace a more sophisticated and feminine version of yourself.
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When we picture an elegant woman, we often think about the way she looks: whether or not she’s wearing a dress, what colors she chooses, what type of hair, makeup, or jewelry she wears.
And while these are all important parts of being elegant, in this blog post, I’m going to pay more attention to another aspect of elegance which we don’t often talk about.
I want us to get a little deeper and gain perspective on what personality traits and behaviors make a woman elegant, classy, and feminine.
Which leads me to my first tip:
1. Leave Childish Behavior in the Past
What do I mean by this? If you have unhealed trauma, it may be tempting to seek attention or validation from others. You may be addicted to drama, creating it out of nowhere, or having constant arguments over minor things. If you want to be an elegant woman, you need to act like an adult.
It’s important to take responsibility for your actions and stop apologizing for your choices. An adult knows it’s okay to make mistakes and is not afraid to own up to them.
An elegant woman knows how to make things right when she has to and she’s not afraid to stand up for herself, instead of letting others walk all over her.
One of my biggest problems throughout my 20s was that I felt like a girl in a woman’s body. I looked mature on the outside, but I was emotionally underdeveloped on the inside. I was constantly looking for happiness outside of myself.
Fast forward to today, I’ve taught myself and hundreds of other women how to understand themselves better, become more confident, and live an unapologetic life by claiming back their femininity.
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2. Work on Your Body Language
Now, that you’re aware of all the childish behavior that you need to cut off from your life, it’s time to focus on improving your body language and posture.
If you’re used to slouching, fidgeting with your hands or legs, or you have problems maintaining eye contact, I understand. I was very shy and anxious, especially as a teenager, and it took me a while to walk and talk in a more confident, feminine, and elegant way.
A good first step is to notice when you’re slouching, doing nervous ticks, or acting like a slob. It’s important to NOT criticize yourself for doing all of these things and to let yourself completely relax when you want to lounge at home.
All of these suggestions are focused on being an elevated version of yourself. Being comfortable in your own skin and acting in a more feminine, soft, and calm way.
Femininity is all about being soft, fluid, gentle, like water, so your body language needs to reflect that. If you want to appear more confident and elegant, you need to sit straight, keep your head up, chin raised, and move your arms and legs in a more gentle and soft way.
It’s almost as if you’re touching everything with love, you’re walking gently, not rushing around, taking your time, you’re proud and happy to be a woman, and you’re embracing your femininity.
3. Be Kind and Generous
One of the best qualities of an elegant woman is her warmth, generosity, and kindness. We all have the desire to help others, but you may have suffered trauma in the past that caused you to close your heart.
Being kind and generous can manifest in many different ways for each one of us. One woman may show kindness by helping her husband with the dishes or calling her mom every week. Another woman may show kindness by donating to charities that she cares about.
If you’re wondering where to start, I suggest doing something kind for yourself and for someone else every day. Make a note or set a reminder on your phone to do something kind first for yourself, and then for someone else.
It’s important to remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup, so if you don’t take care of yourself first, it would be much harder to genuinely help others.
One of the reasons you might have trouble connecting with others and showing them your elegant feminine nature is having an insecure attachment style.
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4. Quit Talking About People Behind Their Back
Gossiping may be a way of bonding for some women, a way of connecting, and being part of a community, but it’s not something that serves you in any shape or form.
When you talk bad things behind someone else’s back, it’s impossible to feel better about yourself afterward. In fact, jealousy, envy, and hate are all coming from the same source: insecurity.
Instead of gossiping, I advise you to dig deeper. Take a step back and ask yourself some introspective questions:
- What about this person rubs me the wrong way?
- Why do they annoy me so much?
- Does this have something to do with someone else from my past?
- Am I projecting a part of myself that I’m actually suppressing?
You may need to do some shadow work which means you may need to become comfortable with all the aspects of your personality and work on your insecurities. If you want to learn how to accept your dark side, check out this YouTube video:
Being an elegant feminine woman starts from the inside out. It’s not enough to buy a scarf or slip on a silk dress. It’s like brushing gold over a spoiled apple; eventually, the shine fades, and what’s beneath is revealed.
You can’t fool yourself or others that elegance can be achieved with only external things. I think that’s one of the problems many women face today: we think that putting on makeup and nice clothes will be enough to transform us, but real transformation starts from within.
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Love,
