7 Ways to Become More Feminine: Be More Feminine and Soft as a Woman



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Feminine and masculine energy are two sides of the same coin: you can’t have one without the other. Today, we’re going to discover how to become more feminine by learning to be soft, open, and willing to let go of old limiting beliefs, so you can embrace your femininity.

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1. Take Care of Yourself

Sounds obvious until you think about just how many roles the modern woman has to play in her daily life at work and at home. That’s why the first rule of being a woman who’s in touch with her femininity is to take care of yourself regardless of what’s happening in your life right now. To truly understand the meaning of it, let me give you an example.

Say you have a husband, two kids, and a promising career in marketing. You don’t want to lose your job and you love your family, but feel so exhausted and cranky all the time! How are you going to take care of your children and advance in your career at the same time?

Only by putting your needs first.

This doesn’t mean neglecting your children or quitting your job because you’re in a bad mood. It means taking good care of your looks, health, and well-being. Trust me, when you look after yourself regularly, you will have more energy and everything else will fall into place.

2. Dress Like a Lady

A couple of years ago, I used to wear almost only jeans and suits. When I first started getting in touch with my femininity, wearing a dress or a skirt sounded a little bit silly. But I then realized why dresses are so important for us, women. The moment I began to wear dresses, I somehow felt more soft, feminine, playful, and relaxed.

We underestimate the impact our choice of clothes has on how we feel and behave as women. You may have some resistance at first, but when you get used to it, you will often prefer wearing a dress over putting on jeans. Being a feminine woman starts with the decision to embrace this soft, relaxed, and playful part of you, and unapologetically express yourself.

3. Trust People

Trust issues with men or other women can be a huge problem for unlocking your femininity. If you really want to feel loved and appreciated, you need to open your heart first. I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of heartbreaks, but the only way to live your life to the fullest is to trust people. Appreciate them, thank them, admire them, love them.

It’s really hard to trust someone especially after you’ve been betrayed so many times. But trust isn’t about the other person, it’s about you.

No matter how many times you’ve been rejected or lied to, your feminine nature is to be open and warm. If you close your heart to the possibility of love, you will never experience the joy of love until you open up again.

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4. Be More Soft and Gentle

Believe it or not, one of your biggest superpowers as a woman is your softness.
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Be kind to people, offer to help them, and do it from the bottom of your heart. When you’re in service of others, you will feel calm, relaxed, and in touch with your femininity.

Being a soft feminine woman is *not* about people-pleasing, being afraid to share your opinion, or feeling like you need to morph yourself into whatever the other person needs you to be to feel loved.

It’s about understanding the power of your femininity: when you act more feminine, you show the world that you’re not afraid to be soft and gentle because you know that it’s one of your greatest strengths and there’s no need to hide it.

One of the easiest ways to become more feminine is to accept that some people will inevitably try to hurt you, but you don’t have to act masculine to be a strong woman. In fact, the more you lean into your feminine tendencies and allow yourself to be soft and gentle, the easier it will be to let go of things and be open to receiving, without any expectations.

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Vulnerable

You don’t have to do everything by yourself. Try asking a close male friend, your husband, or your boyfriend for help on a task whenever you feel like it drains you. You need your feminine energy not just to feel good about yourself, but also to inspire and motivate others around you.

You are the main source of your power and creativity. Let that inspire others. By being vulnerable and sharing your most intimate side, others will treat you with respect and feel even more connected to you.

It takes courage to be vulnerable and a lot of women try to mask their soft, feminine side by acting tough. That’s a recipe for disaster and I’m talking from experience here!

When you’re afraid to be vulnerable with your partner, you’re not only showing them that you can’t open up fully, but you’re also showing yourself that it’s not safe to be feminine. Maybe you’ve had negative experiences in the past that made it difficult for you to trust anyone, but if you want to become more feminine, you have to stop associating femininity with hurt.

The only way to heal your feminine side is to embrace the fact that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Keep finding evidence that being feminine is something that should be encouraged, not avoided, and start reframing your mindset that femininity can only bring you love, calmness, and joy.

Not allowing yourself to express your femininity often has something to do with being too attached to someone. I’ve made a video on this topic that can help you dive deeper into the topic of emotional detachment:

6. Learn to Let Go

If you want to be true to your feminine side, learn to let go. What do I mean by this? Stop trying to control others, the circumstances, or the outcome of your actions.

You are a strong, capable woman, and your purpose is to nourish, cherish, love, and trust your inner femininity. Let go of all the societal expectations; the negative beliefs from the past that no longer serve you, and stop listening to people who don’t have your best interests at heart.

In order to feel more feminine, you need to allow yourself to feel lighter. Not every problem needs to be solved right away; not every challenge needs to be handled by you, and not everything and everyone needs to depend on you.

Let go of all the labels, expectations, and unhelpful beliefs, and you’ll start embracing your femininity without needing to force anything. That’s how feminine women navigate the world successfully: going through challenges with a soft, gentle, light attitude and a sense of humor.

7. Laugh, Play and Be Spontaneous

As opposed to masculine energy, which is fixed, feminine energy is flexible, like water. Let your heart sing, be playful and spontaneous. One of the best ways to do that is by perceiving life as a playground.

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So, what are you waiting for? Go out there and simply be your beautiful, feminine self. Without excuses.

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Coach Simona

Coach Simona is a certified Life Coach, CBT Practitioner, author of the book "111 Ways to Simplify Your Life", and founder of  confidence program The Queen Within™.

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