How to Be a Feminine Woman: How to Be Content with Yourself

For the longest time, being content with myself sounded like a foreign concept.

I was raised to believe that my worth was based on my achievements: the more I accomplished, the more I “deserved” to be acknowledged.

Now, imagine my surprise after many years of trying to fit in the mold of society and finding out that it never felt even remotely as fulfilling as I thought it would.

So what gives?

The thing is, no matter how many gold stars you get, if you still don’t feel good enough as you are, you won’t be content with your life.

What I’ve discovered over the past 10 years is that being content as a woman with who you are right here, right now, comes down to harnessing your feminine energy.

It’s about understanding your innate feminine nature to be soft, gentle, kind, open, and receptive.

In this blog post, I want to help you step into your true power as a feminine woman and be the most authentic version of yourself by learning to enjoy and accept life for what it is.

If you want to catch up with all the podcast episodes from Project Femininity: the ultimate playlist on how to become a feminine woman, you can watch them on YouTube:

Now, let’s dive into my five tips on how to be a feminine woman by learning to be content with yourself:

1. Know Your Worth

It’s so easy to base your self-worth on the amount of love, attention, or validation you get from others; or morph yourself into the perfect “mother”, “daughter”, or “spouse”. What’s important here is to take an objective look at the way you talk to yourself on a daily basis.

Are you being kind and nurturing to yourself, or are you critical and always trying to improve something about your appearance or character?

There’s nothing wrong in becoming the best version of yourself; in fact, I highly encourage you to never stop educating yourself and investing in knowledge. What I’m asking you to do is think what kind of information you’re consuming.

Is someone making you feel as if you’re not enough as you are? As if you need that pair of new shoes or you MUST buy expensive jewelry and makeup to feel special?

If you’re consuming content that’s making you feel less than instead of empowered, you need to take a step back and reevaluate your life choices.

What you feed your mind with is exactly what you’re going to get in the form of thoughts and feelings throughout the day.

If you’re feeling down or you’re constantly comparing yourself to others, that’s a sure sign that you’re too invested in what you could potentially be or should look like.

We have so much to learn from children: they’re open, playful, and authentic. They have no problem saying ‘no’, being spontaneous, and they believe they can become whoever they want to be.

That’s not the case when you become an adult, though: you’ve experienced rejection, a few heartbreaks, probably lost a family member or a pet. You’ve been in tough situations and you’ve survived, but you may have also closed your heart.

That’s okay. I’ve been there. But I want to tell you something very important that I’ve realized in the past few years:

Your value is not more or less than anyone else. You are enough as you are. You may not believe it yet, but I want you to give yourself the benefit of the doubt and try to be kinder to yourself.

Don’t base your value on other people’s opinions of you. You’re not an object.

If you’re struggling with all the negative stories in your mind and you don’t feel confident right now, check out this helpful video:

2. Do Small Acts of Kindness

If you don’t feel content with who you are right now, or where you stand in life, it may be difficult to shift your mindset right away.

But doing something kind for someone else will get you out of that victim mentality, you will feel more connected to others, and you will remember that you’re not alone on this journey and there is so much help available for you out there.

We, women, are nurturers by heart. If we don’t take care of others and don’t feel like we contribute to their happiness, we may feel sad or disconnected from our inner truth.

The moment you stop focusing on all the things you don’t have, you will start caring more about doing good in the world, and that, in turn, will help you feel more content with yourself.

3. Practice Gratitude Daily

One of the things I’ve been doing lately is writing down three things that I’m grateful for every single morning and every night before I go to bed.

You’ve probably heard that having a gratitude attitude can completely change your life. While it may sound a bit dramatic, I think it’s important to at least give it a try and see how it feels.

The feeling of gratitude is so powerful that it can completely get you out of fear and help you focus on the only thing that can give you lasting contentment: love.

Gratitude for being alive and being exactly who you are at this moment, gratitude for others, and gratitude for the things you have in your life.

When you tune into yourself, that deeper layer of yourself that you know exists and is more powerful than all the negative stories you’re telling yourself on a daily basis, you’ll realize that gratitude is something no one can take away from you.

It’s your ability to step into your power of a feminine woman and become more content with yourself.

4. Have an Abundance Mindset

As I briefly mentioned, working on your mindset is the most important personal development work you’ll ever do in your life.

If you’re reading this article, there’s a pretty good chance you don’t feel content with who you are, maybe who you’re with, and also how your life’s going at the moment. That’s okay. We’ve all been there.

The important thing to realize is that you’re coming from a scarcity mindset. Trust me, I know how difficult it is to get out of it. It doesn’t happen right away by saying a few affirmations to yourself, watching a video, or reading a blog post.

But it’s a good start to shake you up a little bit and bring you back to reality.

We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are.

We’re the creators of our own reality, meaning that whatever intent we put into the world, that’s exactly what we’re going to get in return.

If you’re acting defensive towards men or hostile towards other women, you’ll only have negative interactions with all of them. But if you shift your mind towards abundance and realize that there’s enough of everything you need out there in the world, your life will completely change.

Having an abundance mindset is not about disregarding reality. Sure, times are difficult, we’re facing so many challenges right now, but it’s entirely up to you how much media you consume, how much fear you let into your life, and how much negative interactions you have with other people.

Taking responsibility for not being on your “A” game is the first step to shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance.

5. Trust the Process

No matter if we’re talking about your relationship, your career, or your own transformation, you need to learn how to let go and trust the process. By constantly pushing things and getting frustrated when they don’t go your way, you’re depriving yourself of feminine energy. You’re mainly being in your masculine. 

It’s okay to be assertive, to strive for more, to demand more out of life, but there’s a time for action and there’s also time for inaction. As a feminine woman, you need to take good care of yourself and trust that you’ll receive the help that you need if you let it.

You don’t need to do everything by yourself and you most certainly don’t need to feel in control 24/7. 

Trusting the process doesn’t mean being inactive and waiting around for good things to happen to you.

It’s about putting in the work and then surrendering, which is an essential part of our journey as feminine women.

It’s okay to feel scared, angry, or confused. The important thing is to realize that you’re looking at life with the lens of fear and you always change that.

I’ve made a downloadable cheat sheet with the top 15 cognitive biases that will help you understand what limiting beliefs may be keeping you stuck right now.

You can download it here:

So, What Happens Next?

Once you’ve gone through these five steps, it’s important to focus on one more thing: learning to enjoy your own company. This is the only video you need to watch on this topic:

Love,